Returning to work after parental leave can feel like a big step. A bit of early planning and open conversation with your employer can help make the transition smoother and less stressful.
Knowing what to expect — and feeling able to ask for what you need — can help you rebuild confidence and settle back into work at a pace that feels manageable.
Why early conversations help
Before your return date, a simple check-in with your employer can make a big difference.
Early conversations can help you:
- Understand what’s changed while you’ve been away
- Discuss working hours, flexibility, or any adjustments you might need
- Plan your first few weeks back so expectations feel realistic
- Reduce last-minute pressure or uncertainty
It’s normal for plans to evolve during parental leave. You might decide you’d prefer to return sooner or later than expected, or explore part-time or flexible working options — and it’s okay to talk about this.
Supportive practices: what you can do to help your employer
- Start the conversation when you feel ready
You don’t need to have everything figured out. A simple message or check-in can open the door to planning your return together. - Keep your employer updated
If your plans change, letting your employer know early can help them support you and plan workloads more easily. - Use KIT or SPLIT days if they help you
Keeping in Touch (KIT) or Shared Parental Leave In Touch (SPLIT) days can be a gentle way to reconnect, attend key meetings, or talk through your return — but they are always optional. - Think about what would make your return easier
For example: a phased return, time to catch up on changes, or clarity around priorities in the first few weeks. - Ask questions
SMEs may not have large HR teams, so open communication helps avoid misunderstandings and ensures everyone is on the same page.
Making your return work for you
A positive return to work is a shared process. Clear communication, realistic expectations, and small practical steps can help you feel supported as you move back into work alongside your new parenting responsibilities.
Remember — it’s okay to take things one step at a time.
